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Abusive Relationships

Abusive relationships don’t just happen to adults.  Young people can experience abusive behaviour from their boyfriend or girlfriend, in mixed sex or same sex relationships.

Abusive behaviour can be:

  • physical (hitting, kicking, slapping)
  • emotional (humiliating you or putting you down)
  • sexual (forcing you to do sexual acts you don’t want to do)

Abusive relationships can start with verbal or emotional abuse and could happen to anyone. It can often escalate into physical abuse, by which time your self-esteem is likely to be damaged.

Some warning signs of potential violence and abusive behaviour are:

  • extreme jealousy
  • angry when you want to spend time with your friends
  • isolating you from friends and family
  • trying to control your life – how you dress, who you hang out with and what you say
  • humiliating you or putting you down
  • threatening to harm you or to harm themselves if you leave them
  • demanding to know where you are all the time
  • monitoring your calls and emails, threatening you if you don’t respond immediately
  • excessive drinking of alcohol or drug use
  • explosive anger
  • using force during an argument
  • blaming others for his / her problems or feelings
  • being verbally abusive
  • threatening behaviour towards others
  • pressuring you to send them sexual texts or images of yourself

(content taken from the This is Abuse website)

Resources and Useful Websites: 

Broken Rainbow provides support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people experiencing domestic abuse. It also runs a helpline for anyone experiencing homophobic, transphobic or abuse within a same sex relationship. Please call 0300 999 5428

Brook works to enable young people to enjoy their sexuality without harm, by providing free and confidential sexual health services for young people under the age of 25.

 The Hideout is aimed at young people up to to age of 21. You can find information on relationship abuse and advice on how to get help.

The Men’s Advice Line has been set up for male victims in both mixed and same sex abusive relationships. Please call 0808 801 0327

Rape Crisis offers a range of services for women and girls who may have been raped or who have experienced another form of sexual violence. Please click on the link for more information, advice or to find your nearest Rape Crisis Centre. Alternatively, to contact the National Sexual Violence Helpline, please call 0808 802 9999

Respect phoneline: For any young person who recognises that they are abusive within their relationship, help and support can be found on the website, or by calling 0808 802 4040

Thinkuknow offers advice to young people on sex, relationships and the internet. It also provides up-to-date information to help young people develop the skills they need to make sure they stay safe and are happy in the decisions they are making.